Lie Spotting & When Lies Benefit Us

“There are lies, damned lies, and statistics.” Mark Twain

This is a fantastic TED talk, given by Pamela Meyer, which helps to build our understanding about lying.  It’s interesting when Pamela talks about how lies are a cooperative acts.  If you don’t want to be deceived, you need to develop your awareness about what you really want, because liars play on your wants.  This came up for me just today, because of a scam I just got caught in on Facebook.  I saw a “Free Southwest Airlines Tickets!” and on one hand I knew, “too good to be true…” and still had a part of me stumble into the free ticket trap and invite all my friends.  I wanted something for free, they got me with the lie.  So, knowing that we all lie, to some degree, and some are much better liars than others, this is a fun TED talk.  Enjoy Pamela Meyer’s as she educates you and helps you to develop your awareness.  Maybe you will step lightly past the next person trying to scam on you, that comes your way.

Another good talk is on the TEDtalk Radio from NPR a free podcast.  They discuss this issue of deception and it can help you understand even more.

http://www.npr.org/programs/ted-radio-hour/311863205/why-we-lie?showDate=2015-04-03

The radio show talks about ways that we might lie to ourselves and how some of those lies might actually help us.  I know for myself I have a strong Optimism Bias, one way our brains make us believe things.  Most entrepreneurs have this same bias because we have to believe in ourselves in order to take great leaps and create businesses!

Develop your Positive Intelligence

Shirzad Chamine at TEDxStanford 

What a great TEDtalk!  By understanding your inner saboteurs, you can challenge all the negative self talk, and then start listening to your inner sage.  The guide to being happier and more successful is inside of you.  Develop your Positive Intelligence.

http://positiveintelligence.com

 

 

Share this:

Apparently it is not as simple as “yes or no.”  Kelly McGonigal talks about a Harvard study that shows that, how you think about stress matters.  If you see stress as bad, causing illness, and hurting you, it will.  Almost magically, the crucial difference between the stress that makes you sick and the stress that doesn’t hurt you at all, is how you think about it.  The mind is truly a powerful tool.  When you change the stress story, and you see stress as your body’s way of rising to a challenge, you fundamentally change your body’s reaction to the stress.  Your body believes your thoughts and your stress response becomes healthier.  It’s brilliant!  This is a great scientific example of changing the your world with your thinking.

Fearless Empathy

This is is a great TED talk, about the need to have both determination (spine) and empathy (heart).  Vanessa Inn talks about how fear divides these two aspects that make up each of us, and why finding balance between the two extremes helps us to manifest our gifts into the world.  She also tells a great story about her own process of moving through fear, and changing the story she had been telling herself.

 

What is Your Body Saying?

Something like 80% of our communication is non verbal.  Do you know what you’re “saying” when your not talking?  Amy Cuddy looks at how we read other peoples non verbals unconsciously, always making assessments about what they are ‘saying’ to us by reading their body language, and yet we are often not aware of how we are being perceived.  Our non verbals govern how other people think and feel about us.  So, an interesting question was posed, do our non verbals govern how we think and feel about ourselves?  So, Amy looks very closely at the non verbal communication of power, or lack there of.  Can you fake confidence and does it help?  We know that our minds change our bodies, so could our bodies change our minds?  What do the minds of the powerful look like compared to the powerless?

Our bodies can change our minds… our minds can change our behavior… and our behavior can change our outcomes.  Brilliant!

 

Share this:

This is a nice video about some key aspects of success.